A Word About Feminism

Feminism is getting a really bad rep these days. 

For some reason, I keep seeing women talking about being “anti-feminists” because “they don’t believe they should have to hate men” or “they don’t think women deserve special rights to put them above men” or because they “don’t think it’s okay to be a hate mongering asshole”.

Weird. Because I agree with all those things and I am, indeed, a feminist. 

1. I would love and respect my boyfriend, too. 2. I make my own decisions without being pressured. 3. I enjoy makeup and like feeling pretty. Also, I don’t need to be superior to men. I want to be equal.
“I need to be partnered”–Which is exactly why we should be equal.

So when people say this ridiculous shit, I channel my inner Inigo and say “I do not think that word means what you think it means.”

Imagine a world where there was actually a whole movement dedicated to equality of the sexes…oh wait.
Rights that you would, quite literally, not have without the feminist movement.

So here’s the skinny (strong?) about feminism:
It just means being equal. It means believing that a woman’s life is worth the same as a man’s life. 
I mean, I think we should all agree to that, right?

What feminism doesn’t mean:
Feminism DOESN’T MEAN you hate men. (uh, obvs, I’m a man lover over here).
Feminism DOESN’T MEAN you get special consideration. (Uh, because if you got special consideration, you’re not equal. See?)
Feminism DOESN’T MEAN you’re a hate mongering asshole. (I mean, you might be. But that doesn’t make you a feminist.)


Herein lies the problem. A lot of women (and men) have become so accustomed to today’s lifestyle, they don’t really realize the part that feminism has played in where we are socially. 

Like, without strong women and men who supported equality of the sexes, a woman would still be considered a man’s property.

Without strong women and men who supported equality of the sexes, women would not be allowed to go to school.

Without strong women and men who supported equality of the sexes, women would not be so much as CLOSE to a computer, much less able to create a meme of their own image holding a sign declaring why they’re “anti-feminist”. 

See where I’m going with this?

So stop it. Stop holding women back and telling us to get back in the kitchen, take off our shoes and get knocked up already. 

Stop telling little girls that they can’t be strong or that they can’t be whatever-the-hell they want to be-whether it’s an astronaut, a stay at home mama, or a crossfit affiliate owner– because they freakin’ can. 

Stop telling girls that when men mistreat them on the street they should just “ignore it” or when a man yells some obscene thing at them that they should “take it as a compliment”. 


Your girls and your women are worth more. They are worth every bit as much as everyone else. And they should know it. 
Because you should tell them. 
You should encourage them to be strong.

Encourage women AND men to love each other.
And protect EACH OTHER.
And lift EACH OTHER up. 

Because the only way our society gets any stronger is if we all get stronger together.

The things every woman needs to hear

You are beautiful.
You are strong.
You are capable. 
You are worthy.

You need to hear this. 

I want to apologize for society. Society would make you believe you are less than. Society and advertising would have you apologize for your wrinkles by selling you anti-aging creams. They’ll have you be embarrassed by your stretch marks and ashamed that you are not the world’s idea of perfect.

But you should not be made to feel embarrassed.
You do not need anyone’s permission.
You don’t owe anyone an apology.

You are more than likes on an instagram picture.
You are more than followers.
You are more than pouty lips and bedroom eyes.
You are more than a body in scandalous clothing.
You are more than something for people to ogle.
You are more than an object.

You are owed an apology because society has failed to show you who you really are.

You are beautiful
From the top of your head to the tips of your toes. You are GAWGEOUS. The things you’re worried about? Your stretch marks, your wrinkles, your belly…no one notices that. What people notice? Your smile. Your warmth. The way you light up a room. Your passion. Beauty radiates from within you. Your flaws are beautiful. 
You are every bit as beautiful as you believe you are. 

You are strong
Strong minds. Strong bodies. Strong hearts. Maybe you don’t lift weights or maybe you don’t lift the heaviest weights in the gym, but you are strong. Everyday you make decisions that have an impact on a wealth of people–the strength to do that–the courage–is no joke. You are strong for you, for your family, for your friends, for life. You are so strong that you can show your emotions openly. You take risks by expressing your ideas and going after your dreams. You are made from an invisible steel that is seen and admired by everyone. 
You are every bit as strong as you believe you are.

You are capable
You get shit done. There is no task too large and no assignment too daunting because you are capable. You have the ability and the drive to do what you want to do. What you need to do. You believe in doing it. You understand that sometimes you have to do the things you don’t want to do to get where you need to go but you’re going to do it–BECAUSE YOU CAN. You’re going to be the best person you can possibly be today simply because you are capable of being that person.
You are every bit as capable as you believe you are.

You are worthy
This is important. Everything good that you have earned is yours. You earned it. You are worthy of being told everyday how wonderful you are. You are worthy of self-praise. You are outstanding. You deserve a day off and a bubble bath. You are worthy of those PR’s and pull ups. You are worthy of good things because you woke up today and decided to do the damn thing. Some days are great other days we’re lucky to just make it to the bed and not fall asleep in the hallway on the way to bed, but you did it. 
You are every bit as worthy as you believe you are.

I need you to know these things. 
I need you to believe them.
I need you to wake up everyday and realize that no matter what society is selling you, you’re not in the market for their shit. 

Because there’s whole generations of little girls behind you. Looking at you.
Hoping to grow up to be made of the same invisible steel you are.
Wanting to be
and worthy
just. like. you.

photo credit: http://www.npr.org

And one day, they will follow your actions. 
So show who you are.
Show them that they are more.

You are beautiful.
You are strong.
You are capable.
You are worthy.